Sometimes it may feel like you just can’t help yourself. You’re having a bad day and then one more thing happens, no matter how small it may be, and you explode in anger.
You lash out at those around you, even if it wasn’t their fault.
In Galatians 5:19-21, we find a clear picture of what life without Christ looks like. One of the things listed is, “fits of anger.” Clearly fits of anger do not belong in the life of a disciple of Jesus. Then in verses 22 and 23 the fruit of the Spirit is listed, among which self-control. So a life controlled by God’s Spirit will also display self-control.
Does this mean that a Christian can never be angry? Certainly not. Jesus Christ himself was angry at times. One time Jesus went to the synagogue when a man with a withered hand was there too. The Pharisees watched him to see whether Jesus would break the law and heal the man on the Sabbath. Jesus did decide to heal him.
When he asked: “Is it lawful on the Sabbath to do good or to do harm, to save life or to kill?” they remained silent. Jesus was angry with them and “grieved at their hardness of heart” (Mark 3:1-6).
He also became angry when they had turned the temple into a market (Matthew 21:12-13).
But it was never anger without cause or fits of anger that were out of control. Jesus felt anger because the honor of his Father was at stake. It bothered him when people had a false concept of honoring God on the Sabbath or worshiping God at the temple.
Similarly, we read about God being angry with the people of Israel for their disobedience many times in the Old Testament.
Yet He is also described as being a God “slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love” many times in the Bible.
So when God became angry, it was with very good cause: his honor was at stake.
According to Proverbs, it is wise to be slow with your temper: “Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly” (Proverbs 14:29).
You can quickly lose clients and employees if you struggle with controlling your temper.
Dealing with Anger
In Ephesians we find a very instructive verse on how to deal with anger: “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil” (Ephesians 4:26-27).
This verse does not tell us to not be angry. But it does tell us that we should get reconciled with the person we are angry with before the day is over. If we refuse to do that, we give the opportunity to the devil for seeds of bitterness or even hate to grow.
As Christian’s one of our core values is forgiveness. As we have found forgiveness of sins in Christ, so we should extend forgiveness to others who have made us angry or who have hurt us (Matthew 6:14-15).