Hold Back Your Judgement Instead Of Your Love

Sep 4, 2019, Written by Danny Myers

I was recently studying my Bible and came across a verse that I don’t recall from my younger years. 

I  was raised in a God-centered family, went to church Sunday morning, Sunday night, and Wednesday night without fault, and always participated in bible class, bible trivia contests, etc., so I am pretty “versed” in the Bible. 

I was a little surprised I didn’t recognize it, but also understand why I was never taught it. 

The passage is a little long, but here it is: 

“1 Accept the one whose faith is weak, without quarreling over disputable matters. 2 One person’s faith allows them to eat anything, but another, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. 3 The one who eats everything must not treat with contempt the one who does not, and the one who does not eat everything must not judge the one who does, for God has accepted them. 4 Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To their own master, servants stand or fall. And they will stand, for the Lord is able to make them stand.

5 One person considers one day more sacred than another; another considers every day alike. Each of them should be fully convinced in their own mind.6 Whoever regards one day as special does so to the Lord. Whoever eats meat does so to the Lord, for they give thanks to God; and whoever abstains does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God. 7 For none of us lives for ourselves alone, and none of us dies for ourselves alone. 8 If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord. 9 For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living.

10 You, then, why do you judge your brother or sister[a]? Or why do you treat them with contempt? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat. 11 It is written:

“‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord,

‘every knee will bow before me;

    every tongue will acknowledge God.’”[b]

12 So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.

13 Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.14 I am convinced, being fully persuaded in the Lord Jesus, that nothing is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for that person it is unclean. 15 If your brother or sister is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy someone for whom Christ died. 16 Therefore do not let what you know is good be spoken of as evil. 17 For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, 18 because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and receives human approval.

19 Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. 20 Do not destroy the work of God for the sake of food. All food is clean, but it is wrong for a person to eat anything that causes someone else to stumble. 21 It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do anything else that will cause your brother or sister to fall.

22 So whatever you believe about these things keep between yourself and God. Blessed is the one who does not condemn himself by what he approves. 23 But whoever has doubts is condemned if they eat, because their eating is not from faith; and everything that does not come from faith is sin.”

Romans 14:1-23

These verses hold a lot of value that I probably wouldn’t have grasped when I was a child, but is very important to review and ponder as an adult, especially in today’s society and with my wife and child. 

It seems like just about everyone nowadays is or has at least tried a fad diet / exercise plan to try to improve their health, and sometimes they look down on you when you haven’t done it and pressure you to join in on their program. 

I think it is very important to worry about your health and try to improve, but some of it is way over the top and unnecessary. You can care about your health and body without obsessing over it at every waking moment. 

These verses spell it out for us as well – none of us are in any position to judge someone for what / how they eat – only God is! This doesn’t mean you can’t provide gentle encouragement for others to take care of themselves, our bodies are God’s temple. We just shouldn’t judge them to the degree or method they choose. 

Something else is also made very clear in this passage – how we act, including what we eat – can greatly affect those who we are close to. This can range from junk food to alcohol consumption, or supplement usage to vegetable intake.  

The bottom line is, don’t make others suffer because you’re too stubborn or cold hearted to change. Show them you care, and love them by making a change!

I have been horribly guilty of this in the past, not wanting to give up junk food even though my wife wants us to eat better, so that we can not only take care of our bodies, but also help our daughter understand the importance of nutrition. 

Like I said, this also translates into more than just food – bad attitudes, behaviors, or habits are all included. Even small things you may dismiss or feel harmless can hurt someone we are close to and cause them to fall away from God or feel unloved. 

As children of God, we should all strive to lift each other up, rather than cause another to stumble, because we will be responsible for those we cause to falter. 

Let’s all make an effort this week to talk with God, evaluate ourselves, and make a change that will help uplift those around us to spread God’s love and grow closer to Him. 

Reader Interactions


  1. Catherine Taylor Thompson says

    Ooh thank you sooo very much.

    This is really love 101 at its simplest best.

    Yes and I think i know what you mean about atttude…
    I must confess sometimes it has been arrogance and disdain. ( Thse arent fruits of love so help me God)

    This is a wake up call. … very often its not whatwe say but how we say it…

    Today I resign up for the School of “I had better run that by Holy Spirit before i say or do it “.

    Thank you


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Danny Myers

As a Digital Marketing Specialist at Crossroads, I am responsible for the setup, implementation, maintenance, and analysis of digital marketing campaigns, through SEO, Email, Google Ads, Social Media, and other digital advertising platforms.

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