Prayer: Intentionality Creates Connection

Nov 9, 2010, Written by Sue Miley

I am all about praying.  I pray for big stuff and for ridiculous things.  I pray with my clients and I pray for my clients.  I pray at meals and in church.  Actually, this is sounding like a Dr. Seuss book on prayer.  The point is that I believe in the power of prayer.

Sometimes though…..

It creeps up on me and I find that maybe I am just going through the motions.  God says He wants us to pray without ceasing, however, I am sure he would rather our constant babbling have meaning, concern, thanks and sincere praise.

16 Rejoice always, 17 pray continually, 18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

I know this with all of my heart, mind and soul.  I just don’t realize that maybe I am only praying because of habit like at meal time or at the end of a client session.  I look in my journal and the last entry has been twenty days.

I wonder what God is thinking about my pathetic effort.

Then it occurs to me that if I can give such lackluster attention when communicating with God, what does my communication with people look like.

Recently this has been me.  I am still praying, but I’m not getting anywhere.

The Key Is Intentionality

I was starting to feel moments of anxiousness.  There is nothing like a feeling of an oncoming panic attack to change one’s apathetic excuse for a prayer into a crying out of one’s heart.

I am all of the sudden talking to Jesus in earnest.  “Jesus, I am really stressed.  I am letting all of this “stuff” totally distract me from You and Your plans.  And guess what.  The distraction isn’t working at all!  I know you know that.”

Back to Basics

When I am confused or off kilter I have to get back to basics.  Here is what I have done to kick start my prayer life back into heart felt interactive communication with the God of the Universe:

1.  Journaling – I have to write to God to really get clarity and to concentrate.  It also makes me put time aside just for Him.  No distractions.  Normally I am comfortable journaling to God at least 3-4 times per week.  When it goes a week and I haven’t written aka prayed privately then something is wrong.

2.  Focus My Attention on Others – When I am really connected to God, I am usually praying for others more than myself.  My whole work life transforms when I take time on my own time to pray for clients and my practice.  I believe God answers prayer.  I also believe that God is my CEO and I need to be bringing my work challenges and opportunities to Him.  I know it sounds cheesy, but just do it.  You will see the difference.

3. Practice Some Prayer Disciplines – NOT to just check them off the list.  I hate that.  I don’t do anything to just check it off the list.  That is what causes the apathy to take hold.  I do realize though, that we are all different.  I really feel at peace after I intercede on someone else’s behalf in prayer.  I feel like my business is in God’s hands if I walk our building and pray in each office.  Not because He won’t help if I don’t.  It’s because I don’t ask.

4. Ask Other to Pray for Me – I don’t really do this like I should.  I have several small groups, but I am usually the prayer.  It makes a big difference to me when others pray for me.  Yet I don’t ask.  It might be a pride thing.  Anyway, lately I have sincerely requested for certain people to pray for specific things in my life.

I am a counselor so I realize that doing something makes us feel more empowered.  However, my faith trumps my clinical training.  I believe in God’s power more than I believe in cognitive behavioral interventions.

The First Step to Any Solution: Turn to God

Regardless of what is going on in our lives, if we feel out of control, or if things aren’t going well, we always know that the first step is to turn to God.  We need to be connected to Him in any way we can.  That is why I put structure to my prayer.  I pray out of need and desire to be closer to God.  I put structure in to protect myself against the distractions of the world.

God doesn’t need the structure.  I know it is by His grace we are saved, not by how well I pray.  But, for me, I need to be intentional so I can feel connected, listen better, and hopefully be obedient to God’s will.

What about you?  How do you keep that strong connection, i.e. stay online, with God?

Follow or share!

Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. AvatarBrad Harmon says

    Praise God that you are a prayer warrior! It is the one area of my Christian walk that I have struggled with since I became a Christian 35 years ago. My prayer life resembles Tevye from Fiddler on the Roof.

    He’s constantly talking to God throughout the day about every trivial thing that occurs. You never see him in an extended session with God though. It’s where I struggle in my prayer life too. I’m envious of those who can sit down and pray for hours, yet I am also repulsed by the idea of taking a prayer list to God. When I do this it seems like I switch to Santa’s lap mode where I am just reading off the things I want for Christmas.

    Maybe it’s all a personality thing? I find talking to God in response to something that’s just happened, or perhaps that I’ve just read, like a conversation much more appealing. Does this make my prayers more shallow? I don’t know. For me, it makes my relationship with Him more, well, relational. Yet, there is something inside me that longs for those marathon sessions too. Short or long though, prayer works.

  2. AvatarS_Miley says

    Brad, I don’t think your prayers are shallow at all. God wants to be in relationship with us. I do the all day talking to him too! I will say He doesn’t care about the Santa’s lap though. Wouldn’t it be cool if your son came to you with a list of worries and concerns and said “Dad, I have a bunch going on, do you have time for me to pass this all by you.” That would be awesome. I think God feels the same way. I also believe over time that the marathon sessions move from our laundry list of stuff to praying for others, thanksgiving for how God has worked in our life, theological wonderings, etc. But, for most people they have problems thinking about turning to God all through out the day. I would say you are in the advanced prayer warrior category!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Avatar

Sue Miley

Sue Miley MBA, MA, LPC helps small business owners build successful businesses on a foundation of Christian values. After 20 years in business, and 10 years as a Christian counselor, Sue uses a combination of faith, business and psychology to help clients in business and in life.