Some of us are physically busy…running around town, from meeting to carpool to the bank and back.
Others have so many irons in the fire that they have people pulling on them for their time and attention. No decision can be made without them. They touch everything.
People like me have low attention spans and desire overactive stimulation to their brain. These people usually have 20 windows opened at the same time on their computer, are talking on the phone, and watching tv at the same time.
Why Does Busyness Affect Relationships?
The problem with all of these scenarios is:
- it’s difficult to be in the moment with people. We are always distracted with the next stop, the next task, or answering the next text. Whomever we are with actually comes second to whatever is next!
- many times we are late or miss a deadline because we have too much to juggle. In my book, when we miss commitments on a regular basis it becomes an integrity problem.
- quality of our work and our relationships begin to suffer because we take shortcuts or lose consistency in our time and actions.
How Does Jesus Prioritize Busyness and Relationships?
My takeaway from the bible when things get crazy, hectic and busy is to focus on Jesus’ words in Mark 12:28-31:
28 One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?”
29 “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”
Love Is The Essence of Relationship
Love is the essence of relationship. Jesus is pretty clear we need to focus on our relationships with God and with other people.
Jesus had an uncanny ability to stop in the middle of the chaos and focus on people. He could be in the moment in a moment!
Remember the woman who touched His robe as He was walking through a large crowd of people. He could have ignored it and kept walking. But he didn’t. He stopped to find her and heal her.
And then when the guys brought their paralyzed friend down through the roof into the the crowded house where Jesus was teaching. He stopped his talk and his train of thought and focused on the paralyzed man and the faith of his friends.
Jesus’ priorities were doing God’s will and loving people.
Can I Look Deep Into Your Eyes and Post a Tweet?
Yet we get so caught up in our multitasking that we barely look up from our Twitter/Facebook dashboard to address the person who walked into the room.
How often do you see someone talking on the phone while they are eating with a friend, family member, or business associate.
I have certainly been guilty of this and more. I was somewhat reformed though, when someone I love pointed out that I was putting them on hold to answer another call. Why not make whomever is calling wait for the person you are with? It sort of makes sense doesn’t it. Am I more important to you when I am spending time with you or if I am calling you when you are in the middle of another call?
But, social media and cell phones are just the tools of the day. What it comes down to is managing our tendency towards busyness to ensure that we give the appropriate time and attention to our God and the people in our lives.
How is your balance? How do you manage to keep busyness from effecting your relationships?